It's nearing the end of September. Our summer like weather is soon ending. I told Miss K this morning that today may be the last day for shorts to school. She was bummed. I can't say as I blame her.
I am not in a position to wear shorts to the day job, however it is almost sublime to be able to come home the end of September and slip into a pair of shorts and walk around barefoot as the temperature is still nice enough to be able to do so.
Fall is nice don't get me wrong but it's not summer.
Tomorrow is anniversary number 8, which in today's society is about 4 Hollywood marriages. This time last year I was not even sure that we'd make 8 years. Things were weird, still are in some ways.
When your husband makes the statement that he is not in love with you anymore…your world turns upside down. A year later, I'm standing on my feet again, but balancing a lot of things and emotions still.
I do have faith we'll make 9 years and probably more. Things are better. There was no fighting or great conflict. I felt and still feel some days that Big C is troubled and though we talk about everything under the sun, this "stuff" is something he can't share with me.
It's troubling. But the footing underneath is more solid and I look at it as we can only go forward, we cannot go back to the past.
I'm speaking up more. If only to say what I feel. Maybe not as much as I should, but I'm getting it out there a bit more.
It's not that I feel that either of us needs to change. Just that things need to be more out in the open. If I do so, then perhaps he will too.
Oddly it seems like this is another transition time in our lives. Not in an outward sense as we are both secure in our jobs, loving our house, Miss K is rocking the school thing and so on but in a more intangible sense.
I see old friendships changing or fading away and new ones forming. Activities once a regular thing taking the back seat to new experiences and opportunities.
You change, you roll with the punches, you adapt all while trying to keep your values, integrity and be grateful for the chances that you do have.
I think that is a big one for me right now. Gratitude. Or people's lack of it.
So much taken for granted, so much sense of entitlement and it can all be gone in an instant.
It's taking the time to ask someone how they are doing, or remembering an important event in their life. Doing something for someone to show that you care. (I put completing school lunches and making your husband's lunch in this category only because I hate it so much).
You don't have to go out of your way or spend a ton of money. Sometimes even the impersonal text message can be helpful when used in the appropriate way.
If someone gives you something or does something for you, say thanks. Please. Just say thank you. If your kid gets a birthday card from some distant relative, let them know it was received. It does not have to be formal or fancy, but tell them their effort was appreciated.
Don't take anything for granted. If your kid asks for the 1000th time for you to do whatever annoying thing they want to do maybe it's time to do it.
I sat and did some play-doh with Miss K yesterday for all of about 10 minutes but she was thrilled. I hate going to the park to play, but we go once or twice a month because it means a lot to her.
I say thank you when my husband cooks breakfast or makes me a drink and I mean it.
As the saying goes; Life is short, play hard. Maybe life cannot be all play, but nourishing those relationships you need/want in your life is important.
I can't stand that the house doesn't get cleaned on a regular basis, hate that there is more on the to-do list than the has been done list. However, I'm never going to regret a good water fight with my kid, or helping my husband out.
Sometimes those opportunities get shoved to the side. Or we miss the chance to appreciate what others do for us. Who knows when just saying thanks could make someone's day?
I'm not an eternal optimist, more cynical and sarcastic, but I do believe there is good in the world and that we have to be cognizant of our surroundings and not miss out on the beauty of the world as well as the people in it.
If someone or something is not making your world a better place to be, then perhaps its time to move on to those that do.
Til next time…be gracious in all things you do, you may need some grace in your life when you least expect it
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